Adoption & Fostering

When Adoptions Melt

For those who are worried a child they adopt and love will one day be taken from them and given back to their birth parents, let me offer you this: I tried to find statistics on how often that- a form of involuntary dissolution of adoption- actually happens and could find none. It is such a rare and unlikely occurrence that stats are elusive. It is probably for this reason that these cases always make headlines, as the news tends to report the extraordinary instead of the mundane. However, if you are overly concerned about your future adopted children being removed from your home because of their birth parents, then I suggest you use an attorney who is familiar with adoption laws. This should lower your chances of this unfortunate scenario happening to the smallest percentage possible.
Adoptions dissolve about 1-5% of the time. A more likely scenario of a dissolved adoption would be an adoption that is legally severed as a result of the adopted parents’ actions. This can also be involuntary, as in the case of an adopted child who is removed from an unfit home and goes into state custody and a judge terminates the adopted parents’ parental rights. This child would be legally adoptable again. Dissolved adoptions can also occur voluntarily. These adoptions dissolve due to issues that arise between the adopted parents and child after the adoption is finalized. These usually occur as a result of the parents’ inability or unwillingness to cope with a child’s behavioral or medical issues, but can also result from other reasons. In that case, a parent contacts an adoption (or re-adoption) agency or state DHS and places their adopted child for re-adoption.
The best way to avoid a dissolved adoption is be realistic about both what you can handle as an adoptive parent and what a child needs from their parents. Finding a balance and complementary match between the child’s needs and parents’ capabilities will promote a healthy family.

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